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I have one friend on LiveJournal who it it feels like is ignoring me. Now, I looked back through a few recent entries and there were a bunch of comments she didn't reply to, so maybe I'm being too sensitive, but in the particular one that's bothering me she replied to everyone but me. It did occur to me that I used some salty language in my comment (she was posting about a situation that upset her a lot, and I was commiserating...and I swear a lot), and she's at work, so maybe she felt the language was inappropriate or maybe didn't even get the email notification because of filters, but *if* that's the case, she would still see it when she opened the page to reply to everyone else, so I would hope she would ask me to please watch my language rather than just ignoring my comment (I ended up deleting it after she'd replied to like ten other comments, kind of feeling snitty, but also in case it was a problem for her, now it's gone). I've long felt not very connected to this friend, but also know that I can be extra sensitive to perceptions of rejection due to Childhood Issues, so maybe it's nothing.

In addition, I've been really blue lately--I'm prone to Seasonal Affective Disorder, and the short days have been hitting me hard, plus we've had a lot of rainy days lately. Anybody who's suffered from depression knows the pattern depression->insomnia->fatigue->lack of energy->inactivity->letting things slide->even lower mood->wash-rinse-repeat. So that also amps up the sensitivity to all that social stuff. I don't like myself right now, so it feels like others don't either.

Anyway. I just wanted to vent a little bit.

Totally feel you on the depression part. Good luck. We love ya and are pulling for ya!




Here's something to brighten up your day!

Oolong the pancake bunny!

Sending you some feel-good vibes! I hope you can get it worked out! ;)

Come here and vent all you'd like. You can even use salty language. You can even use sparkly salty language!

Hugs to you!

Hey Gadzooks, I have soooo been there. Just remember that feeling this way is temporary. It doesn't seem very nice of your friend to ignore your remarks, but I guess it would make sense to find out why if that's possible.

Do you have a full spectrum light? They really help with SAD.

Please post lots of salty remarks!!! We like them

Do hope you are feeling better very soon. Don't ever hold back with this group. Sending you {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{and

You guys are fuckin' awesome. :lol:

If I may make a late comment.... despite how it looks, how this "friend" is acting may have nothing to do with you at all. Her behaviors may be about her own issues and you just happen to be in the vicinity.

Devil in the Blue Dress wrote:If I may make a late comment.... despite how it looks, how this "friend" is acting may have nothing to do with you at all. Her behaviors may be about her own issues and you just happen to be in the vicinity.

Oh yeah, I'm very aware of that, which is why I didn't say anything to her; it can be really hard when you're only interacting online to know whether it's you or the other person, and I certainly know I'm going through a patch that makes me more likely to see stuff that may or may not be there. And really, even if she was ignoring me, it's not a big enough issue at this point to make a thing out of it.

If you find out that she is ignoring you, please let us know. The Shin Kickers of CTN stand ready to kick shins for you.

(do we have a shin-kicking smiley? we should! )

gadzooks wrote: (do we have a shin-kicking smiley? we should! )

We definitely need one of those... ;)

gadzooks wrote: (do we have a shin-kicking smiley? we should! )

Not that I know of, but it should sport a really nice pair of pumps!

Sending prayers and vibes from VA!!!!!!! (and a big HUG!!! )